The Practice of Us
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The Practice of Us *
Alongside the work of Neighborship, I write.
The Practice of Us is a Substack exploring the systems, spaces, and stories that shape human connection, with reflections on culture, biology, and practice of belonging.
It's where the ideas behind this work get tested in public. Some pieces are grounded in research. Some are more personal. All of them are trying to make sense of why connection is harder than it should be, and what we might do differently.
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New essays and ongoing reflections on connection, community, and belonging.
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Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World
Vivek H. Murthy, MD
A public-health argument for treating human connection as a basic need, with implications for health, workplaces, schools, communities, and civic life.
Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection
John T. Cacioppo and William Patrick
A foundational exploration of the science of loneliness and why social connection is essential to human health, behavior, and survival.
The Great Good Place
Ray Oldenburg
A classic examination of “third places,” the informal public spaces where people gather, build familiarity, and sustain community life outside home and work.
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The Art and Science of Connection
Kasley Killam
A practical introduction to social health and the habits, environments, and relationships that help people live more connected lives.
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Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community
Robert D. Putnam
A landmark study of declining civic participation and social capital in American life, and what those changes mean for community, trust, and belonging.
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The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters
Priya Parker
A practical guide to designing gatherings with greater purpose, structure, and intention so that bringing people together can lead to more meaningful interaction.
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Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose
Jennifer B. Wallace
An exploration of the human need to feel valued and to add value, and how cultures of mattering can strengthen connection, purpose, and wellbeing.
Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World
Adam Grant
A new look at the science of chemistry and closeness, exploring how people build stronger ties in a world increasingly shaped by screens, AI, and social fragmentation.